Archives for June 2009

Return from Exile: Methdadone Weekend Review

So we move out of the city on Tuesday, take Wednesday off, and then we’re back on Thursday staying at the Soho Grand for my wife’s birthday weekend.

And it was interesting.  We got a room in a completely different section of the city, down  at the bottom of Soho near canal.  It was a great opportunity to see the city from a different perspective. I forgot how much I like Soho, where I haven’t really spent time in the past few years.  It’s a very “Manhattanish” neighborhood, if that makes any sense. (And I got to check out the new High Line Park in Chelsea on the far west side, yet another way Manhattan is taunting me as I move away.)

Sadly, you can take the couple of the Upper West Side, but you can’t take the Upper West Side out of the couple.  Between a doctor’s appointment, an event at the Met, her birthday dinner, some lingering work appointments, and a party at the rooftop of the Empire Hotel, we made no fewer than six cab rides from Soho to the west side above 42d street.  I’ve spent years and years in cabs going from my uncool uptown neighborhood to downtown parties and events, so I finally become a downtown person (for a weekend) and end up spending the whole weekend handing cabbies twenties and getting back change.  I want to thank my friend Mike for waiting 15 years to throw a party on the UWS, waiting it out until the first weekend I no longer lived there.

The weekend does show the way for a recovering Manhattanite to come to a soft landing. This was a splash out weekend, for her birthday, but it is entirely possible to find a reasonably (for Manhattan) priced room, cobble together a series of things to events (hopefully that don’t require cross-island cab rides) , and have a Manhattan weekend now and then to recharge those batteries. I think the problem a lot of Manhattan exiles have is that they promise they’ll come back to the city, but let themselves sink into a suburban stupor of easy evenings at the local restaurant and an early movie rather than a 45 minute trip over a bridge and to a $60 parking garage.  I know that’s what we went through in our trial exile in 2005 when we were doing renovations, so I hope that we keep this commitment to come into the city regularly to keep that part of ourselves connected.

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A Hidden Advantage to Living in Suma, rather than Ma: Being Able to Get Tickets to Concerts

Okay, made my first move yesterday to bring a little “Manhattan lifestyle” to my new home in the suburbs. I’m a big fan of the band Fountains of Wayne, best known for “Stacey’s Mom,” and also known for (one of the member’s writing the greatest movie song of all time for the movie That Thing You Do. I tried to see them last year at Joe’s Pub, but it was quickly sold out.

Just saw that they’re doing an acoustic tour, with a stop at the Tarrytown Music Hall.  Picked up two tickets, couple of rows back in the mezzanine, for next Thursday.

So maybe that’s one of the advantages of the Move to Suma — you get some of the same bands coming through the area, but you can actually get tickets…..

UPDATE: It occurred to me that these lyrics from FoW’s “Little Red Light” were appropriate:

Sitting in traffic on the Tappan Zee
Fifty million people out in front of me
Trying to cross the water but it just might be a while
Rain’s coming down I can’t see a thing
Radio’s broken so I’m whistling
New York to Nyack feels like a hundred miles

-JR

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The Sad Realization of a 41 Year Old Man Living with His Parents

It just occurred to me that I’m a 41 year-old man living with my parents.

The fact that this is only temporary while I wait to close on my new home in Nyack is small solace. Mom made dinner the other night, Dad took me to go play golf. I feel like I’m 14.

Although that makes sleeping with my wife at night strangely salacious.

Return from Exile: The Methadone Weekend

It’s my wife’s birthday this Sunday. For the past 7 or 8 years, it happened that her birthday always happened during an annual business trip set up by my company’s former franchisor. It’s a great business trip, usually in an interesting location (last year was Oahu). But the trip almost always coincided with her birthday, making it impossible for her to celebrate with her friends. And as much as she liked spending her birthday with, say, a real estate broker from Omaha, it wasn’t the same.

So this year, it’s my former franchisor, no trip for me. So a perfect year for us to celebrate her birthday in Manhattan, with a chance to see her friends and enjoy the big city. Except that our buyer needed to get in this week, we had to be out of the apartment. No big city.

So we’re back, baby! Just got a room in the Soho Grand for the weekend, going to see a show, have some dinner, maybe get out and about. Get a chance to see what it’s like to visit NYC on a trip from the suburbs.

It’s our “Methadone Weekend,” a chance to ease the withdrawal symptoms, maybe get a chance for a soft landing.

As a visitor to NYC, I’m looking forward to:

  • Staring up at the tall buildings.
  • Walking around with a giant map.
  • Wandering into traffic.
  • Buying a big camera with a strap that goes around my neck.
  • Getting a t-shirt in Times Square that says “New York” with a clever comment.
  • Buying a “rolex”
  • Wearing shorts with sneakers.

Do they still sell fanny-packs?

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Everyone should move now and then.

Moving is a good thing. It’s like a re-boot, an opportunity to wipe off the slate and start from scratch. The best part was cleaning out what we called our “utility drawers,” which really were just places to stash random crap that we didn’t have an immediate use for. Found lots of interesting stuff there:

  • Many, many types of tapes, including the “original lost roll of tape” and many “replacement rolls of tape when the original roll of tape got lost.”
  • Same for batteries, lots of batteries.
  • Enough spare change to probably buy a couple of sandwiches from Lenny’s.
  • Menus from closed restaurants.
  • Proof of car insurance, something that was supposed to be in my car when I got pulled over by suburban cops a few months ago, and would have saved me about $100 of tickets and a few hours of my life.
  • Ipod headsets.
  • Phone charger cords, many many cords.

You get the point.  Moving gives you a chance — an expensive, time-consuming, debilitating chance — to clear out the detritius of your life and start from scratch. I don’t recommend it unless you’re actually going to a new home, though.

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My first suburban accomplishments

So how is the adjustment to SUMA going? So far, I have eaten Chinese takeout from a storefront restaurant, shot a 87 (my best round ever) at my local country club, watched a Yankee win from a big overstuffed chair, drove to two different quickie marts to find a copy of the New York Times. More importantly, I’ve eaten three meals so far with my parents, hung out with my youngest brother, reprogrammed my mother’s car so she can get country music on her satellite radio, and slept 9 hours at one time. So far so good.

Good Night, 82d Street

I remember the first time I saw this apartment. August 1994. I had been looking for about six months, and actually had seen an apartment in the building the first time I went out with a broker.  But Iwasn’t ready to pull the trigger the first time out, and someone else got it.

Then it happened that another apartment in the building came up for sale, which is a little funny considering that there were only four units in the building — a four story townhouse on 82d between Columbus and Central Park West.  This apartment was on the fourth floor, with a roof deck.  Owned by a nice couple, Ben and Susan, with their young child. (As I wrote this, I looked Ben up, he’s still a doctor in Manhattan, actually wrote a book — the scary part is when I think about the young child who was playing when I saw the apartment the first time, who’s probably close to college by now).

One bedroom. One bath. Nice kitchen. Brick walls, wood floors, fireplace.  That’s what I wanted.  The bonus was a spiral staircase from the bedroom going up to a private wood deck that I could already see filled with various friends and potential female acquaintances.  Perfect bachelor pad, I thought. Had an accepted offer three days later, no second thoughts.

But the “bachelor pad” thing didn’t really work out. I met the woman who would later (much later) become my wife four days after I first saw the apartment, spent an hour at dinner sketching out the layout on napkins at a restaurant in Little Italy.  By the time I actually moved into the place in December, we were serious and she was helping me shop for furniture.

Ten years later, as we were thinking about getting a larger place, the joys of 600 square feet in a fourth-floor walkup having slightly faded, we found out that the couple who lived below us were thinking of selling.  We bought their place, combined it with ours, built a proper room on the roof.  Actually created something. An apartment we helped design, one that was unequivocally and indisputably ours. Until now.

So I’ve been in the building since 1994, except for two years in California for school, and six months in the renovation exile in Suma.  A little math — 15 years, minus 2.5 years. That’s almost 5,000 days, over 700 weeks, 162 months.  One and a half Clinton administrations, two Bushes, and a small piece of Obama. Three mayors, four governors, the invention of the internet, the rise of hip-hop, 9/11, a blackout, and a bunch of other stuff. I met my wife the week I saw it, fell in love with her living here, married her 20 blocks away.

The building was very good to me. I will miss her.

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So this is it.

So this is it.

It wasn’t “real” until now. It hadn’t really hit home. I’ve been writing about it, and talking about it, and explaining why we’re leaving, and making lists of all the things I wanted to do before we left (and doing some of them), and savoring all the “lasts” we were doing (the last party, the last trip to the park, the last Sunday dinner, etc.), and looking at new homes, and doing all the stuff you need to do to move.
 
But it still wasn’t real until I saw the empty room today.  The movers came over today to pack up, with the actual move tomorrow. But they moved a lot of stuff around, leaving one of our rooms completely empty. I hadn’t seen it like that since we moved into the apartment (after our renovation) four years ago. I hadn’t seen my apartment empty.
 
It looked wierd.

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Why Movers Hate Me

You know who hates my stairs, the three flights leading up to my apartment?
Everyone.
Like, for example, every guest I’ve ever had. People show up here for parties, and as they reach the main level landing they invariably say something clever along the lines of “Whew.” Usually, it’s a call for a drink, very quickly, since the apparently Everest-like climb has made them extremely thirsty.
Then they realize that if they want to go to the roofdeck, it’s another two flights. Usually they sit down after that.
Another example: delivery guys. They trudge heavily up the stairs holding a rapidly cooling bag of food, and then shoot me a look that says, in Mandarin, “if I had known you wanted me to climb three flights of stairs, I would have opened up your moo shu and spit right into it.”  So I overtip them.
But no one hates my stairs as much as movers.  From the time that I moved in, I never ever had a mover who did not remark upon the heinousness of the task with which I have charged them — to carry heavy pieces of furniture and boxes up and down three or four flights of stairs.  They stop now and then, breathe out heavily, and say, always, the same thing. “Man, that’s a lot of stairs.”
I understand their feelings (both legitimate and an unsubtle attempt to wheedle a larger gratuity at the end of the day), but it always bothers me a little.  If it weren’t for the stairs, I wouldn’t need so many movers.  The very fact that there are so many stairs is what has created the need for the employment.
It’s as if I was at the dentist, and he looked at me and said, “man, teeth. I am sooo sick of effing teeth.”

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Moving Day

Today is moving day.
 
It kind of came up on us.  We pushed our buyer to stay this last week because we really weren’t ready to leave, so we got one final weekend in the city.  That was great, because we had people over during the weekend and got to spend some extra quality time in the apartment.
 
The funny thing was that they were all looking at us like, “you’re really moving on Tuesday?”  They couldn’t understand how we could be moving Tuesday and having parties on Friday with the place looking like it always has.
 
Here’s the secret — movers who do the packing for you.  They literally come in, and do all the worst part of the moving process.  Okay, not the “worst” part.  The worst part is lifting heavy furniture and climbing my stairs.  But the other really crappy part is taking every single dish, glass, platter, and other knick knacks and wrapping them in newspaper, then placing them in boxes, all of that stuff.  And they do that.
 
I’m not sure when this magnificent service started, or who invented it, but to me it’s up there with the wheel, vanilla ice cream, The Housewives of New York City, pad thai, the orgasm, and fire as the great inventions of humankind.
 
Ask me how much they’re charging for it?  I have no idea.  Once I heard that they do this, I honestly didn’t care how much it cost.  I would have paid anything.  I would have named children after them. That’s how much I love this.
 
It reminds me of my adventures in juicing.  The best way to appreciate the joy of juice purchased in a store is to buy yourself a juicer and try to make some orange juice.  After 35 minutes of hideous labor, with the promise of another 15 fun minutes of cleaning a sharp screen filled with orange bits, all of which culminates in about a thimble of warm juice, you’re willing to go to Jamba Juice and perform sexual favors for the guy behind the counter to get something to drink.

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